… or to observe a personality trait.
Foo says that I remind her of Bar in ways both good and bad… mostly bad. This used to bug me no end. I don’t think I’m like Bar, at least not that I’ve observed. Also, I don’t particularly like the facets of Bar that I have seen.
It bugs me less after a few realizations. Foo isn’t necessarily right. She’s just seeing what she wants to see… (in the case of good traits) or is scared of seeing (in the case of bad ones). Additionally, Foo sees this side of me when others don’t because she provokes these traits. The traits that she finds so distasteful are a natural reaction to her personality.
I feel much better now.