First, to me, temper, as in “losing one’s temper” is a measure of how quickly or deeply one gets angry. I’m coming to realize that there is a slightly different concept, I’ll call it annoyance temper, which measures how quickly one gets annoyed.
Second, as I try to get better at dealing with people, I’m coming to form better perceptions of the people I wish / have to interact with. Yesterday, someone I was driving home expressed an opinion of themselves that differed sharply from my perception of them. Epiphany! Explanations for the person’s previous behaviour and interactions fell into place. I not only need to take into account my perceptions of people. I also need to take their perceptions of themselves into account. How this actually translates into better social skills / management prowess is something I haven’t figured out yet.
Third, my friends largely accept me for who I am. I need to stop fretting about things and just be confident in being me. I used to be really good at that, and somewhere along the line… well… I wasn’t as good at it. This isn’t to say that I should stop walking down the road of self-improvement, but I shouldn’t beat myself up about my many idiocies as much as I do.
Adaptation, Observation, Contentedness, and Quiet Self-Confidence.
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